- 你被叫进经理办公室，整个周末都在担心自己犯了什么错——结果对方一开口先夸你，你却怀疑这只是"反馈三明治"的开场客套话。
- 文章批评了"正面反馈+负面反馈"总是绑在一起给的做法，认为这样只会让员工把夸奖当成"负面消息前的缓冲垫"，失去实际价值。
- 心理学家 Carol Dweck 的"成长型思维"被搬出来支持一个具体建议：表扬做事的过程和努力，而不是只表扬结果或"天生的才华"。
- 三条建议层层递进——不要每次夸奖都配一个批评、表扬过程而非结果、把给反馈变成团队日常习惯，读的时候可以按这三条分别做笔记。
重点内容
原文 / 段落
Your manager stops you and says she needs to have a word about your performance in the recent project. You worry about it all weekend, wondering what you might have done wrong. When you step into her office on Monday morning she begins by praising you for the good work you've done on the project, and you wonder if this is the obligatory praise that starts off the typical 'feedback sandwich'. You know how the feedback sandwich goes: say something nice, say what you really want to say, say something nice again.
In an attempt to inject some positivity into their feedback, many managers rely on sandwiching negative feedback between two positive comments. However, when feedback becomes such a routine, employees can start to perceive positive feedback as simply a form of sugarcoating the negatives, thus diminishing its value. Instead, positive feedback should not simply be seen as something to cushion the negative, but should be delivered so as to reinforce and encourage good performance. Below are three tips to help you make positive feedback count.
1. Don't always follow positive feedback with negative feedback
When positive and negative feedback always appear to go hand in hand, the positives can become devalued and ignored. Ensure there are times when positive feedback is given for its own sake and resist the temptation to offer constructive criticism.
2. Cultivate a 'growth mindset'
Psychologist and 'growth mindset' proponent Carol Dweck spoke of the plasticity of the brain and our ability to develop skills and talents that we might not have been good at to start with. Many of us tend to focus our praise on the end result and seemingly innate talents, e.g. 'You really have an eye for details' or 'You have a real talent for organising events'. However, research suggests that by focusing on the process of how things are done – praising effort, experimentation and problem-solving strategies – we can encourage the development of new skills and the continued honing of talents.
3. Create a culture of offering positive feedback
Make giving positive feedback part of your team/department/company culture. Don't just wait for special moments like appraisals to give feedback. Offer informal positive feedback when making small talk or when walking down a corridor. Feedback doesn't have to only come from the higher ranks either. Encourage peer feedback among team members and colleagues and actively ask them for positive comments on each other's performances on tasks.
It might take time to counter the effects of an environment where there is a cynical view of positive feedback, but in the long run, by embracing positive feedback, you can not only enhance working performance but also enrich the quality of life in the workplace.
生词表
| 英文 | 中文 | 备注 |
|---|---|---|
| feedback sandwich | 反馈三明治 | 先夸奖、再批评、再夸奖的反馈手法 |
| sugarcoat (v.) | 粉饰、包裹糖衣 | 比喻把负面消息说得好听 |
| diminish (v.) | 削弱、贬低 | diminishing its value：削弱它的价值 |
| cushion (v.) | 缓冲（冲击） | 比喻用正面反馈缓冲负面消息的打击 |
| constructive criticism | 建设性批评 | |
| plasticity (of the brain) | （大脑的）可塑性 | 心理学术语 |
| innate | 天生的 | innate talents：天生的才能 |
| hone (v.) | 磨练、精进 | honing of talents：磨练才能 |
| appraisal | （绩效）评估 | 职场语境常指年度绩效考核 |
| peer feedback | 同侪反馈 | 来自同事而非上级的反馈 |
| cynical | 抱怀疑/负面态度的 | a cynical view of positive feedback |
| in the long run | 从长远来看 |
理解要点
- 开头的情境小故事（被叫进办公室）是全文的钩子，读的时候要注意它其实是为了引出"反馈三明治"这个被批评的对象，不是单纯讲故事。
- 三条建议各自用粗体数字标出，是典型的"列表式论证文"，抓每条的第一句（核心主张）就能快速理解全文骨架，细节部分是举例支撑。
- Carol Dweck 的研究是用来支撑第二条建议的证据，读的时候要分清"作者的建议"和"引用的研究"这两层，不要把研究结论当成作者自己的新观点。
- 结尾一句用 "in the long run" 收尾，提示这套方法不是立竿见影的技巧，而是需要长期坚持才会看到效果的文化改变。
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